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Every parent knows the feeling—your toddler starts to scream, cry, and throw themselves on the floor, and you’re left wondering where it all went wrong. Tantrums are often seen as an unavoidable part of raising little ones. But what if they didn’t have to be?
One mum’s story has parents everywhere talking. She’s raising three-year-old twins, and she says they’ve never thrown a tantrum. Not even once. How does she do it? Is it luck? A secret parenting technique? Or something else entirely?
In a TikTok video that’s captured attention far and wide, she shared her simple, no-fuss approach to parenting. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about setting the stage for calm, happy children. Her advice is practical, her perspective refreshing, and her results—well, they speak for themselves.
Talking to a fellow mum, she asked her to share the most common moments when tantrums happen. The first example she gave was ‘screen time’. ‘When it’s time to turn off the TV or take away an iPad, my kids lose it,’ the fellow mum explained.
The second? Food. ‘If they want a snack, and I say no, the tears start flowing,’ the mum continued.
And the third? Sharing. ‘My kids always fight over toys. It’s constant.’
Her response to these challenges was straightforward. ‘My kids have never seen an iPad, so there’s no argument about turning it off. They’ve never had sugar, so they don’t ask for snacks I don’t want to give them. And when it comes to sharing, I just make sure they both have the same options, so there’s nothing to fight over.’
At first, the other mum couldn’t believe it. But as the twin mum explained her choices, it started to make sense.
@apriljacksonofficial I have managed to avoid all tantrums (so far) with my 3 year old twin girls and here’s how #parenting #parentingtips #advice #twinmum #gentleparenting ♬ original sound - April Jackson
Screen time is a hot topic for parents. It’s convenient, sure, but it can also lead to battles over when it’s time to stop. For this mum, the solution is simple: her kids don’t watch TV or use tablets.
‘I’ve decided that screens aren’t part of their world right now,’ she says. ‘When they’re older, maybe four or five, we’ll figure it out. But for now, there’s no TV, no iPads—nothing.
Without screens, there are no arguments about turning them off. Her kids don’t feel like they’re missing out because they’ve never had them in the first place.
One parent shared in the comments, ‘I wish I’d done this. Screens are such a struggle in our house now. It’s hard to cut back once they’re used to it.’
Another joked, ‘My toddler had one meltdown when I took away their tablet. They got rug burn and haven’t done it since!’
Food is another major tantrum trigger for kids. Many toddlers crave sugary snacks, and when they can’t have them, it often leads to a meltdown.
For this mum, the answer is clear: no sugar. ‘My twins have never had sugary snacks. No biscuits, no cake, no crisps—nothing like that,’ she explains. ‘The only time they had a tiny taste of ice cream was on a family trip to Jamaica. Other than that, they’ve never had sugar.’
Instead, her children eat healthy, whole foods. Beetroot hummus, avocado, boiled eggs—these are the kinds of snacks they know and love. When her daughter asks for food, it’s always something nutritious, so saying yes is easy.
‘When Maya asked for beetroot hummus the other day, I said yes straight away. I love saying yes because I know she’s asking for something good for her,’ she shares.
One mum in the comments asked, ‘Are homemade treats with natural sweeteners like maple syrup or dates okay?’ She replied, ‘At my girls’ age, I don’t make treats like that yet. But every family is different. You have to find what works best for you.’
Sharing can be a big challenge for siblings, especially twins. But this mum has found a way to keep the peace.
‘I buy the same clothes and toys for both of them. If they both have the same thing, there’s nothing to fight over,’ she says. ‘Sometimes they want different things, and that’s fine. But having the same options helps avoid arguments.’
This strategy might seem small, but it has a big impact. By reducing the chance of competition, her twins rarely fight.
In the comments, one parent pointed out, ‘A lot of tantrums happen because kids can’t express themselves. Teaching them simple sign language can really help.’
While she doesn’t use sign language with her twins, her approach works in a similar way. By keeping things predictable and easy to understand, her children feel less frustrated.
Not everyone believes that tantrum-free parenting is just about choices. Some parents think it’s a matter of personality.
One mum commented, ‘I have six kids, and none of them really threw tantrums as toddlers. I think they just take after their dad’s calm nature—not mine!’
Another said, ‘Some kids are just naturally laid-back. It’s not always about what we do as parents.’
This mum agrees that every child is different. But she also believes that creating the right environment can make a big difference. ‘You can’t control everything, but you can make choices that help kids feel calm and happy,’ she says.
If you’re expecting or have a newborn, her advice is simple: start early.
‘Don’t introduce things that might cause problems later,’ she says. ‘If they don’t know about screens or sugar, they won’t miss them. It’s easier to avoid tantrums than to stop them once they’ve started.’
Of course, every family is different. ‘This works for my family, but it might not be right for everyone,’ she says. ‘You have to find your own rhythm.’
Her story isn’t about being a perfect parent. It’s about making small changes that lead to big results.
At its heart, this mum’s approach is all about simplicity. By removing common stressors like screens and sugary snacks, she’s created a calm, happy environment for her children.
It’s not about avoiding tantrums just for the sake of it. It’s about helping her kids feel safe, loved, and able to express themselves without frustration.
Her story shows that with a little planning and a lot of love, parenting doesn’t have to be so hard.
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